Describe your childhood: |
Stacey: My childhood was a happy one filled with enriching experiences and a loving mother and father. We played a lot of games as a family, went on family vacations, and ate meals together regularly. I also went to a good school that had solid academics, arts, and sports programs.
Scott: I had a happy childhood and grew up in a stereotypical suburban neighborhood. I rode bikes, played sports and helped around the house. We went to church every Sunday. I was a good student and grew up in a house that valued education.
Tell us about your home?
We live in a spacious 3 bedroom, 2 bath house that was built in 2001. The house has a front yard, a side yard and enclosed courtyard where we often eat dinner. The house also has a vegetable garden and detached, 2 car garage. Across the street is a seasonal creek with a walking path that leads to two large community parks.
When you have a 3-day weekend, what do you like to do?
Before our son was born we would go backpacking nearly every 3-day weekend. We plan to resume this backpacking/camping tradition as our kids get older. For now, we will get together with other families and "play tourist" in Northern CA. This includes going to San Francisco to visit friends or do other excursions like going to various children's museums.
Do you have pets? If so tell us about them?
No pets. We love animals, but choose to not have any pets.
What do you hope to teach your children?
There are so many lessons it's difficult to summarize into a concise answer. We hope to teach our children to be empathetic human beings who have compassion and who want to contribute to society and to the planet in positive ways. We hope to instill in them a lifelong love of learning. Additionally, we want to instill a belief in our children they are unique and should pursue their interests. Whether those passions become their vocation or their hobby, they should take action to experience life!
Describe your neighborhood?
Our neighborhood was developed in 2001, so all of the homes are newer. Several of our neighbors have children with the youngest baby being a 5-month old. Several times per week, we walk through an adjacent neighborhood to go to our locally-owned grocery store. We can walk to the downtown and to four different parks, all of which have great playgrounds. We live in a community that has a Farmer's Market in summer and community movie nights in the park along with several parades and concerts in the central park.
What will you tell your child about their birthmother?
We can't answer this until we have met her, but at the appropriate age, we will tell our daughter anything she wants to know, presuming I know the answer. I will always make my gratitude for the decision made by the birthmother known so that my child can understand that the decision was made for the child's benefit above all else.
It's Daddy's day - what activity do you want to share with your child?
We'd cook a delicious breakfast and then head out for a hike in the hills or through the redwood forest.
What kind of education are you hoping to provide for your child - Private or Public?
We have an excellent, highly regarded public school district identified for our children. If they choose to go to college, we will explore all of the options (public or private) in order to help give them an educational experience that best helps them pursue their interests.
How did you come to the decision of adoption?
We've always envisioned a family with two children. The pregnancy and delivery of our son, Nolan, caused Stacey serious physical trauma. We have a lot of love to give, so we have decided to add to our family through adoption.
What faith will you raise your child?
We attend the Unitarian Universalist church, a faith that embraces the value in all people.
What kind of a relationship do you hope to build with your birthmom through her pregnancy?
A respectful and amicable one.
How did you meet?
Mutual friends invited us to go out dancing. Scott was the tallest of the group and Stacey was the shortest, so Stacey sat on Scott's lap in the taxi that took us out for the evening. The rest…is history!
What was your relationship with your parents like?
Stacey: It was warm, loving, and safe.
Scott: I was always loved. I was given a lot of latitude to explore and experience, but lived in a house with clear, strict rules where personal responsibility and accountability was required.
What attracted you to each other?
Scott was and is take-my-breath-away handsome, charismatic, fun loving, and kind.
Stacey was adventurous, energetic, vivacious and had/has a wonderful sense of humor. She is kind and compassionate, thoughtful and inquisitive. I just loved (and still love) hanging out with her.
Please describe your personalities:
Stacey: Energetic, curious, artistic, compassionate, and a lover of learning.
Scott: Energetic, curious, very rational, kind, and a lover of learning.
What are your hobbies?
Stacey: Hiking, gardening, cooking together. Alone playing the piano, painting, reading.
Scott: Hiking, gardening, cooking together. Alone cycling, running, reading.
When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms what are your thoughts regarding the birthmother?
Gratitude and amazement!!
How will a child enrich your life?
However much a parent can teach a child, I believe the parent learns much more about his or her capacity to love, be patient, to listen, to reserve judgement, and to be compassionate. If I allow a child to teach me, I can learn about my best self.
Why did you each choose the career path you decided on?
Stacey: I wanted to do something to leave this world a better place than I found it. I have an artistic inclination that has been used frequently in my work, as well as a love of research and writing.
Scott: Being a Business Development Executive requires that I be self-motivated, work autonomously, develop creative solutions for my customers and get financially rewarded when I'm successful. Working for a large, multi-national engineering firm gives me a collection of solutions and resources that enable me and my company to have a large, positive impact. This current position came as a career path unfolded where I found roles that stimulated my intellectual curiosity and fed my altruistic needs.